“Remember that no one owes you anything, and no one particularly cares about your struggles …” – Greg Everett, Catalyst Athletics, from The Performance Menu, Issue 111, April 2014.
Taken out of context, that quote seems harsh.
The full quote ends with “… in the sport.” Greg was writing advice to an athlete searching for sponsorship, in order to reach the pinnacle of the sport: the national championships.
Greg’s ‘harsh’ advice struck a chord with me because … it’s true. No one particularly cares about your struggles.
- No one is going to sponsor that reader tomorrow just because he wants it.
- No one is going to hire me as a writer tomorrow just because I think I can do it.
- No one is going to alleviate your depression tomorrow just because you ask them.
Compassionate sponsors, publishers, and therapists are out there waiting to help us. It’s what they do; it is the job they chose.
When it comes to treating mental illness, it’s not a competition. You don’t lose your spot to a sicker patient.
But your treatment is very much a grind. It is an ongoing process that you much commit yourself to for years, not months. There will be setbacks. Worrying about how you will cross the finish line is counter-productive.
Make the commitment to fight it first. Tell yourself that you are in this fight for the long haul, no matter what. No matter how many medications don’t work, no matter how many therapists you have to try.
If you can do that, in time, you’ll be able to find all the help you need.