On Sunday I told you about ‘5-Minutes-A-Day-May‘, and I’ve been keeping up all 3 of my 5-minute practices daily: What does the 3rd one, ‘call a family member or friend’, have to do with my health? Why is this important? Aren’t I a nutrition coach? Yes! Yes! This has everything to do with my (andContinue reading “Isolation Isn’t Healthy.”
Category Archives: Relationships & Social Life
The Talk
Often times when I talk with a customer, client, friend, or even a family member, they already know the answer the the question or problem they have. So it’s not the case that they need my verbal advice. Sometimes, they just need someone to talk to, and the talk alone is helpful enough.
Unconditional Ownership
To take 100% ownership of things is difficult sometimes, especially when there’s another person or party involved who refuses to do the same for their share. But, these difficult or tense situations are exact the ones where your 100%, unconditional ownership is what’s needed most.
The Opening
One way I can tell that someone is ready to dive deeper into a problem they’re having is when they open the door with a question. Often times, that question will be slightly misdirected; it will be pointing at something tangential to the real, underlying problem – but not asking about the root cause ofContinue reading “The Opening”
Another ‘Curse’ Word
I’ve talked about my list of ‘curse words‘ before. I’ve just added ‘forgot’ to the list. Far more often than not, it’s not ‘I forgot’; it’s ‘I neglected’. ‘Neglected’ takes ownership. ‘Forgot’ does not.
Some Clients
Some Clients need patience. Some Clients need love. Some Clients need structure. Many just need you to listen, and be there for them. And of course, they need some advice and guidance … but that typically comes last. Be there for them, fully, to do whatever they need – NOT what you think they need,Continue reading “Some Clients”
Arrive Empty.
I do my best to ‘arrive empty’ to everything. Whether it be a work meeting, coaching session, or even a family dinner. Sure, I might have something I want or need to say. But first & foremost, I like to be ready to listen, without assuming anything, and without bringing any prior baggage to theContinue reading “Arrive Empty.”
There Is Always ‘In-Between’.
There are no ‘in-between’ scenes in television or movies. That’s how they can tell stories about days, weeks, months, or years in minutes. The vast majority of actual life is left out. This, by itself, isn’t a bad thing. We want to hear or see the story, but not in real time. The problem arisesContinue reading “There Is Always ‘In-Between’.”
No Conditions
“I’ll keep my promise if you keep yours.” I started to say that the other day to someone, then immediately corrected myself. I replaced it with, “Please disregard that; I’ll keep my promise no matter what, whether you do, or not.” Not only must promises be kept, they should never be conditional.
Message Received?
Another communication tip is that your message must be received in order for it to be complete. So often, even though you think you are being very clear (in your own head), it’s actually not that clear at all in the other person’s. For example, the listener might have a strong mental block about theContinue reading “Message Received?”
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