Sometimes I have to ask ‘Why’ as often as five times, in order to keep peeling back the layers, and to dig down to the real reason behind things.
This is a common Coaching technique.
But you can do it to yourself, as long as you’re honest.
Why are you [here, seeking this, etc.]?
Why is that?
… and so forth, until you get to something real, like: ‘I’ve been unhappy about this ever since I was a kid.’
We can pretty good at keeping our true feelings below daily conscious levels.
Sometimes you have to dig.