I’m sorry to tell you this, but sitting and watching a timer is not the same thing as meditation. That is simply sitting and watching a timer while trying to meditate. However, if, during that time, you can relax your focus from the timer, and release the ‘gaining idea’ of it, then, even if it’sContinue reading “Are You Sure You’re Meditating?”
Monthly Archives: May 2022
Convinced?
Sometimes you get into a discussion with someone else, and it becomes apparent that he or she is absolutely convinced of their position or opinion. They may be listening to you, they may even be saying that they’re open-minded … … but when it comes to actually entertaining a different position, that’s just not possibleContinue reading “Convinced?”
The Communication Quagmire
When you engage in a conversation focused on your needs, it’s likely to turn south quickly. On the other hand, when you genuinely want to understand what it is that the other person needs, and why they are feeling that way, you will dramatically improve the depth of connection. I imagine that many people spendContinue reading “The Communication Quagmire”
The ‘S’ In ‘ASAP’
A lot of people ask for things ‘ASAP’. Recently I started changing my own framework around this. Yes, I will respond to you ASAP. As Surely As Possible. As Solidly As Possible. As Steadily As Possible. Yes, I understand you want it quickly. But don’t you also want it correctly?
The Inbound
I don’t know about you, but if I were to read & respond to my messages whenever they arrived, then I would never stop reading & responding to my messages. Conversely, when I schedule a time to read & respond to my messages, then, two things happen. I don’t get distracted from other things IContinue reading “The Inbound”
‘The Thoughts You Attach To’
It’s not the thoughts you have that make you suffer; it’s the thoughts you attach to that make you suffer. dr. daniel amen This is from ‘The Doctor’s Farmacy’ with Dr. Mark Hyman, M.D., episode 503, titled “How Creating A Healthy Brain Creates A Happy Mind with Dr. Daniel Amen.
‘Your Judgement’
The portal to your own self integration is always going to be through your judgement and resentment. Dr. Kelly Brogan Wise Traditions Podcast Episode 362. Give it a listen.
Don’t Miss Both.
We all have competing commitments these days. I don’t think we’ll be getting rid of those any time soon. If you’ve got kids, you know well what I mean. But even if you don’t, the list may be long: sports, family, self, work, friends … etc. We may be able to become more disciplined andContinue reading “Don’t Miss Both.”
Don’t Ignore Yourself
Over the last few weeks it has warmed up here in New York, and my body has, once again, immediately adjusted by telling me to drink less coffee and more water. I measure these things daily, so I know. During the cold months, 32 OZ of coffee per day + about 70-80 ounces of waterContinue reading “Don’t Ignore Yourself”
“We’ll see.”
One thing I’m getting better at, finally, at 42 years old, is commitment. The main problem I had with commitment before is that I committed to do too much, too often. Today, I’m far more likely to say ‘We’ll see’, ‘It depends’, ‘Maybe’, or ‘I will have to think about this a bit’, than ‘Yes!’Continue reading ““We’ll see.””
Matt Fried 