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When your knee-jerk reaction is to give less, consider giving it more instead.

For example: “This task really bothers me, so I’m not going to do it at all.” Or, “This conversation is super frustrating, so I’m just going to shut down and ignore it.”

Anger and frustration are signs of a deeper problem, something unresolved or disconnected. They are almost never pointing directly at the thing on the surface.

So it’s probably not the task or the conversation, but rather, how you arrived in those positions in the first place.

Could you have done something earlier, made a different choice, so that all of the above would be unnecessary or vanish?

That’s where doing a little more come in.