Accepting help isn’t the easiest thing for today’s father to do. There are many reasons for this. Even in a culture where older stereotypes are actively being broken down, much of our picture of ‘what a man should be’ is heavily influenced by all kinds of myths and stories. Some of those are true, andContinue reading “A Little Help”
Monthly Archives: November 2020
Easy Calories
It’s easy to eat 2,000 calories in a day. It’s not so easy to eat 2,000 of the right calories in a day. For example, when’s the last time you tried eating 16 ounces of spinach or broccoli at one meal? Quantity is important, but quality is equally important, if not more.
Surrender
There are some days during which everything seems upside-down. Nothing goes as you planned or expected. Those days are some of my favorite learning experiences. The ability to adapt, go with the flow, surrender to what you cannot control, and redirect what you can, including your mindset, is crucial.
Life Is Vibrating
The phrase “I can’t wait for 2020 to be over” echoes. Here’s the thing about pain: it has nothing to do at all with the calendar. It is the other side of the same coin that pleasure is a part of. You cannot have one without the other, it is impossible. Pain implies pleasure, angerContinue reading “Life Is Vibrating”
Levels of Awareness
Yesterday I talked about three different kinds of awareness; physical, mental, and emotional. Going a bit deeper, within each one, there are layers. Many layers. Perhaps infinite layers. For example, if you simply close your eyes and listen, for sounds, you’ll hear – even in what you thought was a quiet space – many sounds,Continue reading “Levels of Awareness”
3 Kinds of Awareness
There is physical awareness, the awareness of the body, of sensation. The better you take care of your body through proper diet, exercise, and recovery, the deeper you will be able to tap into your physical senses, and your energy. There is mental awareness, the awareness of dropping the mind, of not letting thoughts blockContinue reading “3 Kinds of Awareness”
Three Minutes
How many times have you watched, listened to, or read something without fully watching, listening, or reading it? How many times have you started something under the shadow of something else that you had to do next? I don’t know what works for you, but I’ll tell you what works (and doesn’t) for me whenContinue reading “Three Minutes”
The Warm Up
Meditation, which I’ve highly recommended many times before as a daily practice, is not just something to be practiced alone, sitting still quietly. It is something to be practiced in all moments. To remain as aware as possible as you move through life is the goal. When you’re alone, sitting still, that’s just the warmContinue reading “The Warm Up”
Negative Into Positive
When you embrace your shadow, when you shed light where there once was darkness, a transformation begins. You literally transform whatever negativity was residing there into positivity. Anger becomes compassion, fear becomes vulnerability, hatred becomes love, and so forth. If you’re brave enough to look directly into the darkness within, first.
Embracing The Shadow
We must be able to embrace our shadow. Whenever anger arises, that’s your shadow. Whenever you start lashing out, whether you verbalize it or now, that’s your shadow. When I say to embrace I mean, don’t run away from it. Don’t shove it under the rug. Go deeper into it. What was it that reallyContinue reading “Embracing The Shadow”
Matt Fried 