I choose the words I speak and write with intentionally, whether I’m consciously aware of it or not.
When I am, I do my best to avoid certain indecisive, unclear, judgmental, uncertain, and otherwise harmful or negative language.
For example, the word ‘should’.
If I tell you that you ‘should’ do this or that, then the very moment that I do that, I am putting myself in a higher position than you. One that implies or states (depending on the context) that I know better than you what is right or wrong for you.
Even with my own young children, I prefer to tell them what I would do I I were in their position, and then let them make their own decision.
So you can see how important language is. It is very powerful. It can change the nature of everything.
Should you pay more attention to your use of certain words, and consider reducing your use of the word ‘should’?
I don’t know. That’s up to you.
I can only tell you what works for me.