What if you could change everything by changing the story you’re telling yourself, or the person that you’re trying to change? What if you could get rid of all of that negative self-talk by simply reframing it? What if, instead of always thinking in terms of what’s impossible, you said to yourself, “this would beContinue reading “Framing”
Monthly Archives: April 2020
There’s Nothing Wrong With You.
About twenty years ago, I shut myself indoors for several months, and avoided contact with as many people as possible. Except, there wasn’t a viral pandemic going on back then. I was going through an internal depression. I never thought that anyone else could possibly understand what I was feeling. So I never said aContinue reading “There’s Nothing Wrong With You.”
Emotional Labor
When you clear the air and leave everything exposed on the table … When you let your heart bleed out onto the paper you’re writing on … When you give the other person you’re with your full and undivided attention, without any judgement at all … When you use all of your available energy toContinue reading “Emotional Labor”
The Rest Of You
It’s difficult to see and feel, particularly if you’re not open to and looking for it, but you are directly connected to every living being on this planet, and in this universe. In fact, you are a unique expression of the entirety of the universe, which, paradoxically, is also fully contained within every part ofContinue reading “The Rest Of You”
Why Are We So Closed To Love?
Why is it so hard for us talk about love? To tell a co-worker or a friend that we love them? To let ourselves fall in love, even in surprising places? You can only love someone to the degree that you are willing to be hurt, that’s one way to look at it. It requiresContinue reading “Why Are We So Closed To Love?”
Is This Work Good Enough?
How do you know that your work is good enough? Not to be rhetorical or cryptic, but, you always know when it is. It’s when you don’t know that it’s probably not. If you’re asking yourself that question, then, you having poured everything you possibly can into it. You haven’t let your guard down, youContinue reading “Is This Work Good Enough?”
“When This Is Over …” (Part II)
Two weeks ago I wrote a post titled “when this is over”, highlighting how poor we are at predicting the future, but also how we can shape our own destinies through our behaviors today. Right after publishing that, as I usually do on Friday mornings, I went into my gym to train. Almost immediately IContinue reading ““When This Is Over …” (Part II)”
Not Sure What To Say?
When you’re not quite sure what to say, say less, not more. Perhaps even nothing at all. It might be time to simply listen, wait, or learn more. Writing more, talking more, you’ll get your turn for that. We need to hear from you when you know what you’re talking about. Not when you don’t.
Your Job Is Easy.
Doing your job is easy. Doing the work that you’re most needed to do, on the other hand, is not. That takes guts. It’s scary. It might not work. And it means that you can’t hide in the things we already know that you’re good at.
The Work Is The Reward
Yes, the paycheck is part of the reward as well. Yes, so is the testimonial from that satisfied client. Yes, so is how you look in the mirror, or in a bathing suit, after all of those push-ups. But it’s not just the end result that comprises the reward. It is also the work itself.Continue reading “The Work Is The Reward”
Matt Fried 