“If he gets better quickly and quietly, no one will have to know what happened, and we’ll all be back to normal.”
This myth has many faces. Maybe your daughter was in drug rehab, or your husband attempted suicide, or your friend’s alcoholism culminated in an accident.
There will be some people you will tell but, for the most part, you won’t be broadcasting this information on Facebook.
I am better now, but after ten years passed without me slipping back into depression, my family surely thought that ‘Matthew’s problems’ were never again to be the subject of public discussion.
The problem with the ‘Feeling Better’ myth is that it is only a portion of the truth.
No one else needs to know what happened to me. I am one-thousand percent better than I was before. Things were completely back to ‘normal’ before I started blogging.
Except, ‘normal’ was also what got me depressed in the first place.
So, if you’re OK with having everything go back to normal, then you must also be OK with having ‘it’ happen again.
Nobody wants ‘it’ – whatever your family’s ‘it’ may be – to happen again. It’s just that talking about ‘it’ feels scary, difficult, and embarrassing.
I can address that.
Any person who makes you feel scared, uneasy, or embarrassed to speak about getting your son well is not worth your time right now.
They have their own issues to work through. Right now, you have to focus on your family.
I am asking you to potentially back away from certain unhealthy relationships, no matter how close they might be.
Playing into the myth that got you here partially blocks the path your loved one needs to break free.